Grief is a Tough Friend to Learn to Live With

I do not claim to have all the answers, because that’s false advertising. We are constantly learning and also striving to learn more as professionals.

When it comes to grief I am especially not an expert. I am however hear to walk beside you on your journey of your grief.

My cousin sent me a drawing grief, as a circle inside of a box with a pain button in it. At the start the grief circle is huge and touch’s the edges of the pain button inside the box all the time. As time goes on the grief circle gets smaller{it doesn’t go away}, but the stings don’t happen as often as they did in the start. Grief is huge and powerful, over time we learn to live with it differently, the pain isn't as strong, the hits aren't as often as they were in the start. We can live through grief and make it out the other side stronger.

This deception of grief, really stuck with me as important and valuable information to share.

I will never tell someone how long they are allowed to grieve, because I think we all grieve in different ways for the rest of our lives, it just changes over time.

We can grieve; people, animals, events and relationships. We can mourn versions of ourselves durning some of the best and worst times of our lives. We can choose to grow through this grief or we can sit inside of it and allow it to be the massive grief circle inside our box.

When we choose to sit inside the grief and allow it to remain big, we aren’t honoring ourselves anymore. Honoring ourselves doesn’t mean, we no longer care about what we grieve over or that we are losing the person we are grieving. It just means that we are choosing to honor ourself inside the grief and also carry them with us by our sides.

Its a hard question to ask at the start of the grieving process, but we must remember, life continues to move forward, with or without us. How do we plan to honor ourselves and those we are mourning with the rest of our life.

As always, I am hear to discuss this deeper. We all grieve, I currently am grieving someone very close to me, who was taken without warning. Our grief remains different but still we can encourage, support and validate one another, durning this hard time. You are never alone.