Whirlwind of 2020

Oh here we go the standard 2020 has been hell, am I right?

W R O N G

Oh 2020, you were welcomed with such grace and excitement and have left most people confused, lost and feeling agitated. I too had those feelings during this year. As a professional, I am not immune to feelings and emotions, I feel all the good and all the bad just like everyone else.

This year was OUR year, mine and my (now) husband, we were slated to get married(April), find our new house(early spring of 2020) and both open our business's this year(after the above mentioned occurred). We had OUR plan and were ticking off the boxes as we went along. We were left in disbelief when we heard of a possibility of a pandemic, so close to our original date April 18th, we couldn't believe all our plans were about to shift. The plan we had been curating with my mom and planner for around a year, was SO close we could taste our raw vegan cake already.

March rolled around and we decided to postpone, this was not done lightly this was done through fits of tears, anger and sadness. We figured okay, all of our vendors were able to move with us, thank you sweet Jesus, lets look to August 21st. Pivot number 1.

Slowly, the date of our original wedding crept by, I was not a happy camper this day or the week of our honeymoon. I was mourning the loss of what was supposed to be, what we had envisioned and planned so long for.

We had this grand plan of what our day would look like, what people would think and the most obvious of all, us finally becoming husband and wife. This didn't happen how we had it planned it to be in our heads...instead it actually happened exactly as it should of and how it was meant to be all along.

Photo Cred: Stefanie Russo Photography

I am a firm believer in everything happens as it should, even if I do not like it one bit or fight it every step of the way.

So lets get to the part where I get to tell you all the fun juicy positives that we learned and experienced during this crazy time in our lives.

During the stay home stay safe, I was luckily enough to work remotely from home and this was the first time in his career that my then fiancé had any time to himself, with the market crashing and everyone scared to death. So, what did we decide to do during a time of needed growth and understanding, he opened his own mortgage brokerage. This was the only time he ever had to sit down and get it all done right without losing any attention he gives to his clients. Pivot number 2 of the year.

Once regulations started to ease up, we began our house search again, now mind you, we've been looking for over a year, we've dabbled in thinking we wanted a total fixer upper, brand new custom to be built home on an acre of land and the normal typical homes. We had been turned down from multiple offers during this time. But we finally found our diamond in the rough, we got the space we wanted, the privacy, on a .5 acre and it just needed updates and a new loving family to move in. Pivot number 3.

So my {now} husband and I were able to get married, not on our original date, or the second date but actually a 3rd date. We officially tied the knot August 16th 2020. We had a lot of bumps in the road, some people had to back out of our wedding, even leading up to a few days before the big day. Some family members were not able to come, we had to switch vendors and locations due to regulations and availability. We took photos at the most magical place we could of dreamt of, my vendors new and old were the dream team of all dream teams and everyone who was able to be apart of our day, was exactly who was and needed to be there. Pivot number 4.

Oh and here's the kicker, we got married, closed on our home, moved and opened MY office all within 3 weeks of each other. It was a wild ride to say the least.

During all of this craziness, we learned to pivot, to roll with the punches and to give everyone so much g r a c e.

Of course there was plenty of drama and pain during this time as well, but dwelling or giving light to these dark moments is not what I choose to give my time too. I learned a long time ago, we are what we consume. Meaning this to be both physically and mentally, always be mindful not only of what you are ingesting through your mouth but also through your mind.

Please feel free to share this with anyone who is struggling during this time, especially any COVID Bride ( I feel you Sis I promise).

As always, I am here to answer questions, to dive deeper and if you are feeling ready to take the next step and begin therapy, please do not hesitate to reach out to me and we can take the first steps together to helping you create a more balanced life for your self.